Unless you're a mom, then it's nerve racking.It can turn a woman into super mom, able to leap 3 foot high baskets of laundry in a single bound, run faster than a toddler, and stop children from toppling off inventive 'ladders'.
Silence is good:
Jas 1:19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
Psa 4:4 Stand in awe, and sin not: commune with your own heart upon your bed, and be still. Selah.
Psa_46:10 Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.
Lam 3:26 It is good that a man should both hope and quietly wait for the salvation of the LORD.
1Pe 3:4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
Pro 13:3 He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life: but he that openeth wide his lips shall have destruction.
Amo 5:13 Therefore the prudent shall keep silence in that time; for it is an evil time.
Ecc 3:7 A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
However, there is a silence which is NOT good.
Specifically when used as a weapon. A weapon? Immature relating techniques, yes, but weapon? No it hadn't crossed my mind, until providentially (there are NO coincidences with God), I read this article:
Is Giving Someone the Silent Treatment Really Like Witchcraft?
"Did you know the silent treatment (which is the stubborn refusal to talk to someone, especially after a recent argument or disagreement) is a form of witchcraft? Witchcraft is sometimes a spiritual force, but it's also a work of the flesh listed in Galatians."
"It's all about the motive. If you are letting things cool off, fine. But if you are seeking to punish someone or teach them a lesson with your silence, you're not operating from a godly motive."
Passive Aggressive - Narcissist - some interesting words.
Silent Treatment: Preferred Weapon of a Person with Narcissism
From the article above: "The silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse designed to (1) place the abuser in a position of control; (2) silence the target’s attempts at assertion; (3) avoid conflict resolution/personal responsibility/compromise; or (4) punish the target for a slight against the narcissistic person’s ego. Often, the result of the silent treatment is exactly what the narcissistic person wishes to create: a reaction from the target and a sense of control.
The target, who may possess high emotional intelligence, empathy, conflict-resolution skills, and the ability to compromise, may work diligently to respond to the deafening silence. He or she may frequently reach out to the narcissistic person via email, phone, or text to resolve the greatly inflated misunderstanding, and is typically met with continued disdain, contempt, and silence. Essentially, the narcissistic person’s message is one of extreme disapproval to the degree that the silence renders the target so insignificant that he or she is ignored and becomes nonexistent in the eyes of the narcissistic person."
So how well are we relating to one another? Be angry and sin not? Let not the sun go down on your wrath? One article (I can't remember which one) said we all engage in passive-aggressive behavior from time to time. The real question, how often/frequently? Does it define your relating style?
Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,
Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.
If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.
Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.
Galatians 5:19-26
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